I cant please everyone

Its not easy for me to be a 25 year old step mother to twin 11 year old boys. It's not something I expected to be doing at my age or at this point in my life, but it is the choice that I made. I love them as much as I possibly can given my role. They are wonderful children and I couldnt ask for better stepsons.

I try my hardest to be the best step mother and friend to them. I want them to be able to feel comfortable talking to me. I want to do all the things for them that their father cant do when he is busy at work. I try my best to not cross any lines between being their stepmother and trying to be their mother.

I will never be there mom. I dont want to be their mom, I would never in a million years dream of trying to replace her. I am just trying to do everything I can and everything that is asked of me for this position that I am in.

It hurts my feelings when I hear that she thinks I am overstepping lines. I am merely doing what is asked of me by their father. I am just trying to provide for them the best I can no matter what my role is. I am not trying to do more than I should, I am just attempting to do what they need done for them.

I feel misunderstood. I feel like the bad guy. When all I am doing is all I know how. I havent been a mother for the past 11 years. I have never been a mother at all. This is the first time in my life that I have been put into a situation where I am the stepmother of 2 boys and I am doing my best with something that is completely new to me.

I will probably  never have it completely right. Until I have my own kids will I fully understand what it means to be a mom. But I do feel like I am doing a good job of being there for the kids that I do have. They are a big part of my life and I want them to be well taken care of.

I am not trying to cause problems by being yet another parental figure in their lives. I am merely hoping that I can be someone that they are comfortable around, someone that makes sure that while they are under our roof are well taken care of, and someone they can call a friend. Not their mom, a friend.

I will never take your place, and I wouldnt dream of trying. I just wish you understood that this isnt easy for me either. It makes my position more difficult the more negative things you say about me. I am new at this, and I am doing the best I can possibly do.

I just wish you would see that. I wish you could step outside of your world and look into mine and know that this is harder than it looks.  Until then, I suppose that this will remain uncomfortable, I will continue to feel misunderstood and hurt by you.

I can't please everyone, but I can try my hardest to please the ones that matter most to me, and right now that's my family.